Meditation: is it just sitting quietly with your eyes closed? Or is there some kind of mysterious inner transformation that I’m supposed to experience? I used to see a very vivid image when I heard the term “meditation”, but after hearing about all the benefits from so many sources, I wanted to incorporate it into my life. But I was always distracted with the circling questions, am I doing it right? Am I meditating?
Sometimes when I am meditating, I get very antsy. I feel like I’m not doing it right because I have so many to-do’s and thoughts buzzing in my head. If you’re like me, don’t worry – I’ve learned a couple things along the way.
There is no “right” way to meditate, but I can share share a few tips on how to help you get the most out of your meditation practice. And it is truly a practice – you should see the benefits with time, just like exercise or diet.
1. Try to be still
I’ve heard over and over again that you should try to notice how still you can be in your session. Stay relaxed and calm – in time, this should translate into an inner quiet you experience during your practice. If you’re not able to stay still, no worries – notice your movements and think about how you feel. There are still days when I can’t stop fidgeting – it’s a work in progress.
Sometimes it can help to just focus on breathing normally, or mix it up with some deep breathing. Just keep your attention on breathing and, voila! – you meditated.
3. Appreciate the time
You don’t need to meditate for forty minutes. If you set aside five minutes, appreciate that time for yourself, and take that as your small win of the day. Sometimes, the only time I have to “meditate” is for a minute in the shower or in the middle of trying to wing out my eyeliner – just closing my eyes and standing still for a moment can be enough.
4. No expectations
When you meditate, feel free to release the pressure of any types of expectations or goals you set for yourself in this time. I often find myself trying to compete – “how good did I do?” – so it’s definitely a mental shift to stop focusing on being performative.
5. Be comfortable
Sit wherever or however you want. You don’t need a dedicated meditation space – I often sit up in bed to meditate. Lately, I love doing this before sleep to wind down from the day.
Thanks for reading and happy meditating!
Have any other meditation tips? Send them over.